The Transgender Pecking Order

Further to yesterday’s blog post I have been doing some more thinking. We all need to stop perpetuating this ‘hierarchy of trans-ness’ nonsense.
There is no Ultimate Trans Warrior.

With respect to male to female transgender people:

Some people need makeup to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need hormones to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need to remove body hair to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need ‘their own natural breasts’ to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need facial feminisation surgery to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need an orchiotomy to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need a vagina to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not

With respect to female to make transgender people

Some people need hormones to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need body hair to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need facial hair to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need pecs/a six pack/mega biceps etc to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need an top surgery to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not
Some people need a prosthesis to feel comfortable with their body image, some do not

Exactly where you are on this ‘scale’ or spectrum does not matter. It does not make anyone any more or less trans. Gender resides in the brain, not the sex organs. The sex organs may or may not reflect what is going on in the brain. That is all.

Exactly where you are on this ‘scale’ or spectrum does not matter It does not make anyone any more or less valid as a person. We are more than our genitals. We are more than our secondary sex organs and or characteristics. Having bottom surgery is not the ‘goal’ of being a transgender person. If there is a goal it is to find peace, happiness and contentment.

Society needs to stop forcing trans people to conform to an external notion of who they need to be. In exactly the same way that society needs to stop telling women to conform to patriarchal notions of femininity and what is or is not ‘safe’ to do, to wear etc. We are in essence fighting the same battle here. Let us all fight it together!

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  1. Perfectly said.

    It always amazes me how people that have been ostracized about who they are will turn around and do it others. We don’t need to understand why some is or is not a certain. Let’s just accept and love them

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  2. Well said; let’s all shout this from the rooftops.

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  3. Totally agree! 🙂

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  4. notathoughtgiven January 6, 2017 — 6:52 pm

    I agree that we need to stand together to fight against society and what it imposes on us as women. But the battle shouldn’t stop there. We feed to fight within ourselves to do the same thing to other people. That we don’t come across as hypocrites. Otherwise the battle with society would be worthless.

    We cannot stand and expect society to listen and do it when we are doing the same thing ourselves. That we need to set an example with ourselves that doesn’t impose or dictate how someone else should live or be because we think it is right for them. That can be hard to do because we might not even realize we are doing it.

    Like the choice of words we use at times. Coming across as too strong with our opinion. We should take a hard look at ourselves first and see how we might have become the thing we hate in other people. Encourage other people to do the same.

    If we can do that with ourselves then we can say “Well do the same thing for me”. People might actually do that because we respect them and who they are as a person. That maybe the battle is not with society but within ourselves.

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  5. Reblogged this on and commented:
    I strongly agree, many times I feel like I don’t “suffer” enough to be trans.

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